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(15 minute complimentary session)

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ContactKathy Beckwith, Oregon author and mediation trainer.
  • Challenging Youth with Questions

  • Encouraging Youth with Vision

  • Empowering Youth through Skills

  • Inspiring Youth through Fun!

  • Working together with youth & adults,
  • so we all keep learning...

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Kathy sings
"Child of the Earth"
© Kathy Beckwith 2010
Lyrics and melody
written by Kathy Beckwith
Music co-written and song produced
by Daniel Eon(P) DiverCity Music
All rights reserved.

 

About her work with youth, Kathy says…

“I’ve seen youth in action – their amazingly creative ideas, their caring, their energy, their loyalty, their humor. I’m honored to work with them, to help them discover more of their potential, so that they have so much fun doing so much good.”

About her work with adults…
“I seek to empower adults to find ways in which they can inspire youth – their own children and others – and themselves, to become powerful, compassionate, and effective problem-solvers. I challenge us all to question the “habit of violence” we encounter, whether it be in our own lives, our community, or our nation.”



                                

                 toolbox    Toolbox Skills for Today    parrot              

                                   

A parrot is a tool? No, but it is a reminder of the #1 top communication tool that helps us really listen to others. Parrots repeat what they hear. We don’t “parrot back” what someone has said, but we do “Bounce Back” for them. We listen and then put in our own words, sincerely, what we’ve just heard them say. That keeps us from responding defensively or in anger. It also lets us make sure we’ve heard correctly, and it lets the other person know we’re listening and want to understand their viewpoint. That changes things!


Instead of saying, “Come on! I was only ten minutes late. It couldn’t have been that big of a deal!” you can Bounce Back what they said: “So when I was late, you were worried that I might not show at all, and you were counting on me to be there to help you set up the display?” Give them a chance to say more. Keep listening and Bouncing Back until you know they feel understood. I keep a paper parrot on my kitchen wall to help me remember to Bounce Back instead of Pounce Back.