Kathy Beckwith Videos

“If You Choose Not to Hit”—A Dozen Skills
That Make Kids Powerful Problem Solvers—
What Parents and Others Can Do
  • What is the #1 skill for parents and other
    adults to model?
  • What is the most effective “consequence” of all?
  • How can parents and teachers enhance their
    natural role as mediators?
  • How can kids most effectively get other kids
    to stop negative behavior?
  • What is one process families & classrooms can
    use that will help kids become lifelong 
    problem solvers?

Session length: 2 hours
Number of participants: Up to 36
Fee: $200, plus If You Choose Not to Hit
book purchases of $10 each

What Will Be On Your Picture Book Shelf in
Fifty Years?
Believing picture books are treasures for a lifetime,
Kathy encourages kids to never stop
reading them, and to start a fifty-year library
collection now—to include both uniquely published
works of their own and traditionally
published works of others.
Reasons for writing and ways to make it
happen are explored, along with the questions:
What three books must you positively read
before the year is up? What happened that
made Kathy a writer? What book is waiting for
an author to write it, this year?

Session length: 45-60 minutes
Number of students per session: 25
Fee: $300 per day or $200 per half day. 

What Could I Learn by Starting A Picture
Book Club?
Using her picture book Playing War as the
Book Club selection, Kathy will facilitate a
Picture Book Club process that students can start in
their own families or with friends and
classmates. Reading the book, opening with a
circle question, and then moving to questions
about the story lets students share their reactions
to what happened with Luke, Sameer,
and their friends. “Questions About Life” and
an activity based on Sameer’s wooden top help
apply and anchor the Book Club experience to
the students’ own lives.  Students also help create          
a Book Club Agenda for a second picture book.

Session length: 45-60 minutes
Number of students: 10-25
Fee: $300 per day or $200 per half day.

How Can I Change My World Through
Students can learn how to help their peers
resolve conflicts without violence through the
mediation process, and at the same time gain
invaluable skills that will be theirs for a lifetime.
The changes begin in their own lives and
in their school as they help students take
responsibility for finding solutions to their own
problems, resulting in agreements that are kept.
The school climate changes as students learn
they don’t have to “just live with it,” “get even,”
or “write them off.” Offenders are held
Kathy has worked with student mediators
for over two decades, and finds it absolutely
awesome to see what they can do.  "We literally rob
children and teens of one of life’s most powerful
learning experiences when we fail to offer
them this opportunity to serve and to solve," Kathy says. 

Any doubts? Email to ask about the young man who had
a history of violence at school and what brought about the
change in him that resulted in his threatening
a classmate with these words: “Hey, man, you
better knock it off, or I’m going to take you to mediation!”

Session length: 2 days
Number of students: Up to 24
Fee: $600  





What is The Role of Teens and Pre-Teens in
the Prevention of Sexual Abuse?
Using the Book Club format, Kathy’s YA novel
Critical Mass will be discussed. A sampling of
activities from the Leader’s Guide will show
projects teens can take on to have an impact in
this critical area of violence prevention.

Session Length: 2 sessions, 1-1/2 hours
each, with staff follow-up for projects.
(Students to read novel in advance.) 

See "Books" for more information on the novel and Leader's Guide.)

Fee: $200

Program fees quoted above are for local schools. 
Distance travel needs to be discussed.


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A parrot is a tool? No, but it is a reminder of the #1 top communication tool that helps us really listen to others. Parrots repeat what they hear. We don’t “parrot back” what someone has said, but we do “Bounce Back” for them. We listen and then put in our own words, sincerely, what we’ve just heard them say. That keeps us from responding defensively or in anger. It also lets us make sure we’ve heard correctly, and it lets the other person know we’re listening and want to understand their viewpoint. That changes things!

Instead of saying, “Come on! I was only ten minutes late. It couldn’t have been that big of a deal!” you can Bounce Back what they said: “So when I was late, you were worried that I might not show at all, and you were counting on me to be there to help you set up the display?” Give them a chance to say more. Keep listening and Bouncing Back until you know they feel understood. I keep a paper parrot on my kitchen wall to help me remember to Bounce Back instead of Pounce Back.